Finding a guy is one thing, but keeping him around is another. Both are important but what are some of the secrets of women who find men willing to commit? This is not an all-encompassing guide, but it may be a start in helping you develop deeper relationships.
Communicate. From the start of the relationship and all through the marriage, the key to keeping the relationship together is communication. Tell him what you feel both positive and negative.
Be emotionally grounded. Life with you should not be a roller coaster ride. Men generally like women who are stable and vice versa. Sometimes this is a difficult task in our hectic lives, but it is not impossible. If you find yourself referred to as a "drama queen" in more than one instance, seek help and guidance in relaxing your nerves and calming your emotions.
Appreciate a man's strengths. Also, tell him so, even if he's already prideful. Then, support him when he is at his best, and avoid nagging or berating him when he is at his worst.
Don't assume. Some men wait slightly longer than you might want before they ask. If he is really worth marrying, you should be willing to wait (within reason). But if he is uninterested (or worse, making excuses) even after a long period of time, you need to re-evaluate the direction of your relationship.
Convey unconditional love. A strong relationship should be based upon more than convenience. Pushing past difficult times while remaining together requires a deep commitment and appreciation for one another. Unconditional love is developed over time. It is a choice we make, not necessarily a feeling we experience.
"Winning the man, not the argument": in any relationship, disagreements will occur. However the key to resolving issues is not only to talk these through but also to discuss all issues effectively. Never bring up previously unresolved issues; they are in the past and that is where they should be left. Never discuss issues with your partner if you haven't resolved this emotionally with your self first. If thinking about an issue makes you feel upset or angry, then do not bring this up with your partner. If you do, there is a chance that your emotions will get the better of you, you will not be thinking or communicating clearly if this happens which can lead to an argument. Discuss things objectively and think with an open mind. If you want him to understand you, you must be willing to understand and listen to him, too.
Ironically, women who give men an incentive to marry them may end up moving him in the opposite direction.
Don't marry a man who is not the kind of person you want in the hopes that you will be able to change him into what you want. If the person you think you want to marry does not meet your basic requirements, trying to change him after getting married will only make both of you miserable. Some mistakes that oftentimes people make are:
Refusal to compromise. Neither of you will ever be able to get everything each of you wants from each other, or from life. Couples who stay married long-term almost invariably are of the opinion that the secret to a long marriage is being able to compromise, and to be willing to give as much as you are hoping to get out of the relationship.
Don't be controlling. If you are a controlling woman, you are not showing him the respect he may need to feel good about himself. Do not humiliate him or question his manhood. He will leave you for sure.
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